My boyfriend of two years makes snide comments insinuating that I'm spoiled and "privileged." I live at home while finishing my undergraduate degree. Most of my tuition is paid for through scholarships. Both of my parents have higher-paying careers than his parents, but I don't consider us wealthy, and we live a frugal lifestyle in comparison to my parents' colleagues. He claims we look down on him for not having a college degree (neither does my sibling) and I'm getting tired of feeling defensive on behalf of my family. Should I start looking for someone with a more compatible background?
My girlfriend of two years is more than a little bit spoiled. She lives at home and her education is all paid for by scholarships and her parents, but insists it's all no big deal, and "I don't need to feel bad about my background". I've worked hard for everything I have, and I'm tired of feeling defensive about my family and lack of education. Should I start looking for someone with a more compatible background?
She's black, I'm white. We met in college and were best friends for six years, then dated for two. "Susan" and I are now engaged, and I couldn't be happier, or more in love.
During our (mostly) platonic period, she learned a lot of important things about me -- including that my parents are mildly bigoted, and very opposed to interracial coupling. Even once we started dating, she was okay with that; we both recognized it as a challenge we'd have to deal with together.
Recently, during a family dinner, my father said something so rude and insensitive that Susan called off our engagement that night. She claims it's nothing I did wrong, that she just can't imagine marrying someone whose family hates her for something she can't change.
Not to mention having to raise "these people's grandkids."
I say we're still engaged, present tense, because she's on the fence now, and I think we still have hope if I play my cards right. I don't want to lose her.
He's white, I'm black. We were best friends for six years before we added romance to our friendship 2 years ago. We're engaged and in love.
The trouble is his family. They're utter bigots and completely opposed to 'miscegnation' (ugh). When we started dating, I thought it was a challenge we could deal with.
The other night, though, we were having dinner with his family and they made such bigoted, hateful comments that I just couldn't stand it. He did nothing, and I just can't imagine facing his nasty family without backup. Can you imagine raising kids with racist grandparents and a spineless husband?
As far as I'm concerned, the engagement is off, but I told him I'd think it over. How do I make him see that this is never going to work out?